According to the dictionary, procrastination is defined as “to put off intentionally and habitually, or to put off intentionally the doing of something that should be done.”
If we break that definition down, we see that there is personal and deliberate knowingness in our delaying the doing of something that should get done and that delaying can become a pattern, or habit, over time. For purposes of this forum, the “should” get done is presumed to be something you want, could, need or should get done, and is not the “should” of false obligation (as in, don’t should on yourself!).
In other words, we intentionally negate action on something we should get done that would ostensibly improve the quality of our lives in some way. When we are not enjoying an optimal quality of life, our life force energy is not being fed. Even more, when we internalize the delay as being a negative reflection of who we are, our life energy is literally being taken from us (or, more clearly, we are just giving it away indiscriminately!).
One key warning signal that procrastination is stealing your life force energy is that your “to do” list never gets done. There is a difference between healthy stress and something that is hanging over your head waiting for attention. It takes your mental energy to not look at it, and the thing itself will grow in proportion until it gets handled. It’s like never-ending homework. And avoidance strategies may include staying really busy, being in overwhelm, focusing on everybody else, creating drama and handling distractions vs. being productive – all of which are sabotage in the most insidious ways. (Insidious because they are disguised as being really productive, or kind, or engaged with lots of activities – they are socially acceptable but not truly productive for you.)
Another warning signal that indicates procrastination is stealing your energy is that the sense that you canot get ahead. Procrastination keeps you stuck in the past by keeping the “it” you are delaying front and foremost in your mind as something that you should get done. After all, who would you be if you were moving forward easily and measurably instead of living from your past?
The most damaging warning signal is when your self-esteem drops as a result of not handling “it”. There is a sense that you never measure up because you are not handling “it”. There are a number of reasons why you might not be handling “it” that are completely unrelated to your self-esteem, but your self-esteem doesn’t know that. All your inner being knows is that you are not getting it done and, if your programming runs like most people’s, it must be because you are not good enough somehow to get it done.
When procrastination is a big enough factor in your life to be robbing you of your quality of life, it is time to do something – NOW.
Lynn Scheurell Lynn Scheurell facilitates positive transformation for her clients using both intuitive and linear thinking. Her company, Creative Catalyst, is a leader in initiating dramatic change for independent professionals and decision-makers. Download your own free report right now to learn Your 6 Power Points for Personal Success – and How What You Don’t Know Can Cost You Years of Hard Work! http://www.mycreativecatalyst.com/.
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Friday
Why Would You Want To Use A Caoch?
Do you ever feel that:
* Your life is out of your control?
* You are not where you could be or want to be?
* You don't really receive the recognition you deserve?
* You don't feel safe and secure in your relationships?
* You are often overlooked and undermined?
* You have strong desire but lack belief in your ability or the future?
* You are working harder but can't seem to make any progress?
* You are frustrated because you can't seem to break through the barriers in your life
* You are settling for less because it is still better than what other people have?
Do you ever wish that:
* You could have more confidence to do the things you really want to?
* You had more self esteem to stand up for what you believe in?
* You could command respect from your colleagues?
* You could impress others when they meet you?
* You could communicate your ideas with ease?
* You could stand up and speak in public?
What if you could do the above and:
* Eliminate Stress, Fear and Anxiety?
* Reclaim your Health by losing weight, quitting smoking, or dealing with other addictions?
* Improve all of your Relationships?
* Develop your Confidence and Self Esteem?
* Have more control over your life?
* Understand why people see you the way they do?
* Learn how to avoid these problems in the future?
Would you be willing to take the action necessary to bring about these outcomes? Is it just a wish you have, or is it a real desire to change? Have you ever thought "I deserve the best I can get in life and will do whatever it takes to get the best" If you are ready to give yourself the best in life, then please read contact us.
By the way the basic componants of behaviour are:
Be(behaviour)= Feel+Wish+Do
Each of us has a differing capacity of each, some prefer The Feelings (emotions) , some perfer Doing ( action) and other the Wishing( thoughts) , each has a profound cost and pay off. It also determines how you show up in life! And the capacity with which you live it fully,completely without limits. Only to figure that most of the programming to your behaviour happened at an unconcious level before your were even aware it existed. The turth of the matter is, by becoming aware of it you can then do something about it, and one of the best ways is with your Catalyst Coach.
Article written by Deepak Lodhia founder of Catalyst Coaching You can also find Deepak Lodhia listed in the Find a Life Coach Life Coaching directory
* Your life is out of your control?
* You are not where you could be or want to be?
* You don't really receive the recognition you deserve?
* You don't feel safe and secure in your relationships?
* You are often overlooked and undermined?
* You have strong desire but lack belief in your ability or the future?
* You are working harder but can't seem to make any progress?
* You are frustrated because you can't seem to break through the barriers in your life
* You are settling for less because it is still better than what other people have?
Do you ever wish that:
* You could have more confidence to do the things you really want to?
* You had more self esteem to stand up for what you believe in?
* You could command respect from your colleagues?
* You could impress others when they meet you?
* You could communicate your ideas with ease?
* You could stand up and speak in public?
What if you could do the above and:
* Eliminate Stress, Fear and Anxiety?
* Reclaim your Health by losing weight, quitting smoking, or dealing with other addictions?
* Improve all of your Relationships?
* Develop your Confidence and Self Esteem?
* Have more control over your life?
* Understand why people see you the way they do?
* Learn how to avoid these problems in the future?
Would you be willing to take the action necessary to bring about these outcomes? Is it just a wish you have, or is it a real desire to change? Have you ever thought "I deserve the best I can get in life and will do whatever it takes to get the best" If you are ready to give yourself the best in life, then please read contact us.
By the way the basic componants of behaviour are:
Be(behaviour)= Feel+Wish+Do
Each of us has a differing capacity of each, some prefer The Feelings (emotions) , some perfer Doing ( action) and other the Wishing( thoughts) , each has a profound cost and pay off. It also determines how you show up in life! And the capacity with which you live it fully,completely without limits. Only to figure that most of the programming to your behaviour happened at an unconcious level before your were even aware it existed. The turth of the matter is, by becoming aware of it you can then do something about it, and one of the best ways is with your Catalyst Coach.
Article written by Deepak Lodhia founder of Catalyst Coaching You can also find Deepak Lodhia listed in the Find a Life Coach Life Coaching directory
Wednesday
Why Every Mom Needs A Life Coach
I think it takes so much courage to come forward and state that you are not a superwoman. Every mom could use some help to balance your life and to reach your dreams/goals. It can be complicated when you work alone to try to diagram your day, and set up limits of your time. Even just getting started with organization can be overwhelming. Life is trying and until you have a clearly designated time for everything, you will never achieve full success in any area. Coaching is a way to help you reprogram your thinking. Learning to have faith that when you listen to your heart you will find happiness, success and balance and do right by yourself and your family is the key to finding success in any coaching program. You have to think different terms. I work with so many women, and it’s so incredible when they learn to be the light in their life. In life you are either the light on your path, or the shadow.
As a Mommy CEO it can be such a struggle to find who you really are. So much of our lives are wrapped into our family and the role we have as mother, wife, homemaker, chef, driver...you know what I mean. It is a never ending role. Add in to that the business woman who is the driving force of the business, the marketing manager, the buyer.... and you can lose the 'you" that you used to know, or wish you were.
The first thing we do in our coaching program is try to see where it is you really want to go. It's so easy to get the bus full for the journey once you know where you are going... but if you have just said "Let go somewhere, anywhere..." who would want to take part in that life journey. And why would you want to take those that you love on a journey like that. And yet we do that every day.
It can be the wrong move to just have dreams/goals that you run out and just jump right into. Especially when we have such passion for our dreams/goals, and we want to provide a life for our loved ones that is full of substance and happiness rather than struggles. Life is made for dreams/goals. Dreams/goals light up our life. It's up to us to follow our hearts, and follow our dreams/goals and use the life that we have been given to really LIVE. But you need to develop an action plan, a life map that will take you from point ‘A’ to the ‘B’, ‘C’ and ‘D’s. When you create a plan it is like a beacon of light shining like a laser in the night.
Think about the light? In my last book I delved into this subject. So I just want to touch base on how the light you give off works with your coaching process and reaching your dreams/goals.
How does the light beam bounce back, or reflect? Try shining your flashlight on a mirror. Shine it at different angles and see what happens. If you hold the mirror at an angle and shine a flashlight on it, does the light bounce back in your eyes? The definition of reflection is when light bounces off an object. Usually we associate reflection with a smooth, polished surface; however the surface doesn't have to be smooth. Light reflects off your shirt, therefore others can see that you're wearing one.
Think about this in terms of your own light force. When you are working hard on your journey, trying very hard to be more light-like and less selfish; the light will bounce from you to those around you. Just as this holds true, we have learned that it doesn’t have to be a smooth, shiny surface for the light to reflect off of you. So when you are full of ego, gossiping with your neighbors, etc… you are still reflecting your light upon those around you.
Try to think of a coaching program in terms of lighting your path, being a shining example of life and love along the way. Faith is not belief. Belief is passive. Faith is active. Be active in the journey; be active in lighting your path. Be active in your dreams/goals. Mom is the foundation of the family life. When you realize how to achieve your dreams/goals by working with a coach you brighten the lives of everyone you love.
by Barbara Lindahl-Christensen – Connecting your life and your passions
Coaching Soul-utions for life and business
http://www.BijaCoaching.com
© 2007
As a Mommy CEO it can be such a struggle to find who you really are. So much of our lives are wrapped into our family and the role we have as mother, wife, homemaker, chef, driver...you know what I mean. It is a never ending role. Add in to that the business woman who is the driving force of the business, the marketing manager, the buyer.... and you can lose the 'you" that you used to know, or wish you were.
The first thing we do in our coaching program is try to see where it is you really want to go. It's so easy to get the bus full for the journey once you know where you are going... but if you have just said "Let go somewhere, anywhere..." who would want to take part in that life journey. And why would you want to take those that you love on a journey like that. And yet we do that every day.
It can be the wrong move to just have dreams/goals that you run out and just jump right into. Especially when we have such passion for our dreams/goals, and we want to provide a life for our loved ones that is full of substance and happiness rather than struggles. Life is made for dreams/goals. Dreams/goals light up our life. It's up to us to follow our hearts, and follow our dreams/goals and use the life that we have been given to really LIVE. But you need to develop an action plan, a life map that will take you from point ‘A’ to the ‘B’, ‘C’ and ‘D’s. When you create a plan it is like a beacon of light shining like a laser in the night.
Think about the light? In my last book I delved into this subject. So I just want to touch base on how the light you give off works with your coaching process and reaching your dreams/goals.
How does the light beam bounce back, or reflect? Try shining your flashlight on a mirror. Shine it at different angles and see what happens. If you hold the mirror at an angle and shine a flashlight on it, does the light bounce back in your eyes? The definition of reflection is when light bounces off an object. Usually we associate reflection with a smooth, polished surface; however the surface doesn't have to be smooth. Light reflects off your shirt, therefore others can see that you're wearing one.
Think about this in terms of your own light force. When you are working hard on your journey, trying very hard to be more light-like and less selfish; the light will bounce from you to those around you. Just as this holds true, we have learned that it doesn’t have to be a smooth, shiny surface for the light to reflect off of you. So when you are full of ego, gossiping with your neighbors, etc… you are still reflecting your light upon those around you.
Try to think of a coaching program in terms of lighting your path, being a shining example of life and love along the way. Faith is not belief. Belief is passive. Faith is active. Be active in the journey; be active in lighting your path. Be active in your dreams/goals. Mom is the foundation of the family life. When you realize how to achieve your dreams/goals by working with a coach you brighten the lives of everyone you love.
by Barbara Lindahl-Christensen – Connecting your life and your passions
Coaching Soul-utions for life and business
http://www.BijaCoaching.com
© 2007
Tuesday
Life Balance? What The Heck is That?!
One of the biggest challenges that many of my clients bring to their coaching sessions revolves around achieving life balance. This is not surprising when you consider that we live in a world where there is so much going on, so many choices to make, and a myriad of demands on our time. Given the fast-paced nature of the world in which we live, how exactly does one achieve the ever-coveted state of “balance”?
The critical first step is to define what life balance actually is. As much as the phrase is a popular one, most people aren’t able to clearly articulate its meaning. The reason for this is quite simple: balance looks different to each person. What looks like a balanced, manageable day for one person may look like complete chaos to another individual. So, it is essential that you get clear on what balance looks like for you. Ask yourself: what would be present in my life if things were more balanced? What would I be doing? How would I be feeling? Once you know the answers to these questions, then you’ve got a solid sense of what you’re aiming for. You’ve got a direction in which to head.
Which bring us to the second aspect of the definition. People often assume that “balance” is a state of being, a destination. The fact, however, is that it is not a destination but rather a direction. In every moment of every day you are presented with choices. The choices you make are either moving you in the direction of balance, or away from it. It behooves you to remember this because if you labour under the illusion that balance is a state of being then you can fail to recognize it when you actually have it. So, say it with me, and repeat it often: BALANCE IS A DIRECTION; IT’S NOT A DESTINATION.
The final piece of the definition is to remember that “balanced” does not equate to stress-free or perfect. Life, being what it is, will always have its ups and downs. When you are making choices that move you towards balance, however, the up-and-down moments don’t knock you off course; you simply move with them and take them in stride. Think about roller-coaster rides. There are some roller-coasters that send you to the place of complete nausea; you exit the ride and head for the nearest garbage can or washroom as quickly as possible. There are other roller-coasters, however, that leave you feeling absolutely exhilarated. There’s a thrill to the ride, even with its ups and downs. You know you can go back for more, and handle it just fine. In the same way, when your life choices are in line with what you want, and you’re moving towards balance more often than not, life’s ups and downs are just part of the journey.
Knowing how to define balance, recognizing what it actually means for you in your world is essential to being able to live a “balanced life”. Next time, we’ll explore what to do once you’re clear on what balance means for you. Until then, here’s an activity to do: create a collage that captures the essence of the life you’re creating. Make sure it speaks to who you are and how you want to be. Then post this visual reminder of your balanced life in a prominent place. Happy collaging! Here’s to getting clear on how you want your life to be.
Gail Barker is a certified professional life coach who specializes in supporting busy women who are ready to move from chaos to calm, from drudgery to delight in their lives. Her company, Stellar Coaching & Consulting (www.stellarcc.com) has been in operation since 2003. She is also coauthor of The Control Freak's Guide to Living Lightly: Manifesting a Life of Total Trust (www.controlfreakseries.com).
The critical first step is to define what life balance actually is. As much as the phrase is a popular one, most people aren’t able to clearly articulate its meaning. The reason for this is quite simple: balance looks different to each person. What looks like a balanced, manageable day for one person may look like complete chaos to another individual. So, it is essential that you get clear on what balance looks like for you. Ask yourself: what would be present in my life if things were more balanced? What would I be doing? How would I be feeling? Once you know the answers to these questions, then you’ve got a solid sense of what you’re aiming for. You’ve got a direction in which to head.
Which bring us to the second aspect of the definition. People often assume that “balance” is a state of being, a destination. The fact, however, is that it is not a destination but rather a direction. In every moment of every day you are presented with choices. The choices you make are either moving you in the direction of balance, or away from it. It behooves you to remember this because if you labour under the illusion that balance is a state of being then you can fail to recognize it when you actually have it. So, say it with me, and repeat it often: BALANCE IS A DIRECTION; IT’S NOT A DESTINATION.
The final piece of the definition is to remember that “balanced” does not equate to stress-free or perfect. Life, being what it is, will always have its ups and downs. When you are making choices that move you towards balance, however, the up-and-down moments don’t knock you off course; you simply move with them and take them in stride. Think about roller-coaster rides. There are some roller-coasters that send you to the place of complete nausea; you exit the ride and head for the nearest garbage can or washroom as quickly as possible. There are other roller-coasters, however, that leave you feeling absolutely exhilarated. There’s a thrill to the ride, even with its ups and downs. You know you can go back for more, and handle it just fine. In the same way, when your life choices are in line with what you want, and you’re moving towards balance more often than not, life’s ups and downs are just part of the journey.
Knowing how to define balance, recognizing what it actually means for you in your world is essential to being able to live a “balanced life”. Next time, we’ll explore what to do once you’re clear on what balance means for you. Until then, here’s an activity to do: create a collage that captures the essence of the life you’re creating. Make sure it speaks to who you are and how you want to be. Then post this visual reminder of your balanced life in a prominent place. Happy collaging! Here’s to getting clear on how you want your life to be.
Gail Barker is a certified professional life coach who specializes in supporting busy women who are ready to move from chaos to calm, from drudgery to delight in their lives. Her company, Stellar Coaching & Consulting (www.stellarcc.com) has been in operation since 2003. She is also coauthor of The Control Freak's Guide to Living Lightly: Manifesting a Life of Total Trust (www.controlfreakseries.com).
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