Showing posts with label self confidence. Show all posts
Showing posts with label self confidence. Show all posts

Monday

The Secrets to Amazing Self Confidence

Lack of confidence not only affects your state of mind but it also affects how others treat you. Self confidence is something that can be missing from early childhood and continue throughout all of adulthood.

When you fail to develop the self confidence you need, it can affect every aspect of your life, e.g. school, relationships, employment and social situations. However, it's never too late to improve your confidence and become the person you've always wanted to be.

This article will discuss the problems associated with a low confidence level and start you on the journey to a better understanding of what steps to take to rebuild your confidence to levels that you never thought possible.

Shyness and fear are typical expressions of a confidence problem. Hiding from interactions with others and avoidance are symptoms which are correctable with time, effort and the knowledge needed to rebuild your self confidence.

The tools you need for improving your confidence are with you all the time: your mind and your emotions. Your mind will begin the process of control while eliminating emotions like shyness and fear will start you on a track that continues on for the rest of your life. Remember, how you see yourself is how others will see you and having confidence will earn the confidence and respect of others.

Often times our own thoughts are to blame for our low self-confidence. Positive thinking needs to win-out over negative thoughts to be able to build and govern your self confidence. In essence, thinking positive will help develop a stronger you.

Negative thoughts often lead to negative actions and even the possibility of unlawful actions. Whereas, positive thinking will lead to positive actions which then lead to more postive thinking and more positive actions. It is a very circular behavior pattern both negative and positive. With the proper positive mindset, you will exude confidence and success will not be far behind.

So often in today's world we promote the idea of fitting in and being like the rest of the crowd, but we really should be talking about what makes each one of us unique and how important our individual contributions to society are. Comparing ourselves to others often leads to continued negative thinking and again the cycle continues forever downwards. Emotions like envy can be very destructive and can quickly tear apart years of confidence building only to have to start over.

Developing your self confidence is a continuous life long process. Everyone will have setbacks in their lives but how we react to those setbacks often distinguishes between success and failure. Other powerful techniques that you may work on are learning to use your inner filter, self-criticism and positive self-talk which can take you to the next level of building self confidence.

How to gain self confidence starts with identification and ends with behavioral change and results in a better you. Get started building a better you today!

About the Author

Tony Stai is a firm believer in the power of self-improvement ebooks. Tony runs a resource site that provides informational articles, reports and ebooks for self learning. To discover more about improving your self confidence visit Self Improvement - Build Your Confidence at http://www.self-improvementresources.com/ebooks/mind/boostyourconfidence.html

Thursday

4 Quick Tips to Boost Your Self-Confidence

Loss of self-confidence can happen to anyone at any time. Here are four easy activities that a person can do to help boost their confidence.

Mary Chapin Carpenter has a line in one of her songs that goes, "Sometimes you're the windshield; sometimes you're the bug." When I've suddenly lost my confidence, I feel more like the bug, than the windshield.

When this happens, it's easy to replay the situation over and over again, hoping for a different ending. This usually only makes me feel worse. What I really need is something to remind me that being the "bug" is a temporary state. I don't think I'm alone here. All of us need confidence boosters at some time in our lives. Here are a few ideas that can help:

Remember a Time When You Were Confident

Write down a past experience that gave confidence. Think about why this experience made you feel confident. Who was involved? What happened? What did you do? Be as detailed about this experience as you can so that it is vivid in your mind. Refer to this experience to remind you that you have been confident before and will be again!

Make a Success Album

Use a 3x5 card to write down things you've been successful at in the past. In this case, success is anything you've done that's made you proud of yourself. It may be cleaning out your closets or bringing in a big account for work. Put the cards in a photo album. When your confidence is low, read the cards in your album to remind you that you've been successful in the past.

Affirm Your Confidence

Leave written affirmations on sticky notes in places where you will see them regularly. The notes can contain action affirmations, such as "You Can Do It" or a favorite confidence-building quote. It's best to use short phrases that are easily remembered and always use positive words. For example, it's better to say "I AM successful" rather than "I am not a failure." When you see the affirmation, it's also helpful to say it aloud, rather than reading it to yourself.

Let Your Answering Machine Pickup Your Confidence

Ask friends to call your answering machine and leave positive comments about your strengths, talents and what makes you special to them. When things aren't going well, listen to these comments to remind you that there are people who believe you are talented and very special.

Use these ideas to recharge your confidence. They're simple to do and useful to anyone who experiences a sudden loss of confidence or needs a confidence boost. They'll help remind you to be the windshield and not the bug!

Sara Healy is a life coach who helps people with life and career transitions using their strengths and values. Find out how she can help you make positive changes in your life by contacting her at: => http:// www.sarahealy.com